Hey all yall young uns out there i just wanted to spit a little on this topic. Is dating someone outside of church right or wrong??? I have my points of view, but would like to hear some other points of view as well. let me know Holla!

Hello Rocafuerte! This is a very good question! Well to answer your question I believe that it is wrong! In 2 Corinthians 6:14 the Bible tells us: " be ye not uneuqally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?(I know this is talking about marriage , but we can apply it to dating also.) A person's relationship with God is what defines our lives, now this is why it is important for both the girlfriend and the boyfriend to have a personal relationship with God. Not just to say that they are saved but to be in LOVE with Jesus, putting Him first above each other, when this is done the relationship can grow because by learning to love God you can love each other truthfully and give it all that you have. I think that dating someone who doesn't have a relationship with God is a disaster waiting to happen! Why? because that person will not have the values and beliefs that God wants us to have. I know from experience, dating someone that did not have a relationship with God was a defining moment in my life, I went through a lot with my parents and with my ex-boufriend, constantly fighting and we both ended up broken hearted. He had other things in mind for a relationship that I didn't. So i would advice you guys to be careful and listen to what the word of God has to say about dating , this is serious stuff and should not be taken lightly! It's important that whoever you want to date has lasting qualities that will lead each of you closer to God. !!!! I could go on and on about this... I feel very strongly about this kind of situtation! Guys at my church would ask me whay I just don't date anyone or why I still don't have a boyfriend and it's really because I'm waiting for that guy ho has a passion for God and who can love Him before me. Anyway I have to go for now I have class in a while and should get some studying done!!! God Bless You guys !!!-Yanavith

hey Rocafuerte! This is special(real name)I personly think that it is wrong, why because when a girl is saved and a guy is not, the relationship will never work. Because the guy would want to go to parties and do all this stuff that does not please god.depart from the world.if you are wanting to date i would look for a guy that is saved you know go to church,who would not try to pull you away from GOD

i would not encourage someone to date an unbeliever. however, not all turn out bad. my husband was an unbeliever. he had heard about christ, but never new more than the usual...god loved the world, he came to earth and died...etc.

when he asked me out, i hesitated, but i went. i made it clear who i was and the god i served. he was attracted to me, because of christ in me...as long as you keep focus on Jesus, maybe he'll give his life to christ as my husband did. we both serve and love the LORD. just be careful and always pray for direction.

Hey Yaniveth i hope i spelled that right? Its so cool to hear some feed back, from all of you, the reality of the situation is what the word of God says and yaniveth you said it perfect, but there are special cases where the spirit of God can change people, but only when its Gods will. I know we play music, i preach, and seriously if your not careful with letting God guide you it could lead to pain and frustration, even if the person is Christian. There have been so many instances that i can think of when a girl approaches me and theres nothing wrong with it, but not all who claim to be holy are holy you know lets call it as it is, and most of us can discern when someone has good intentions or not. The bottom line is its all about Gods will yall, he knows who to bless you with, as well as what your looking for. God is so awesome that hell give you the desires of your heart, (even if your desire is a person)but only and when you allow God to guide you.

God bless holla back Yaniveth...

Hey rocafuerte!! You spell my name Yanavith, but it's ok . Well i agree with you but I would prefer my future boyfriend/husband to have a relationship with God. But I totally agree with what you said. Oh I saw that you wrote,"God is so awesome that hell give you the desires of your hear"- this is one of my favorite verses Psalm 37:4 Its just a constant reminder to me to put God above all things and He will give me what I desire as long as It's His will and that my desires benefit my life. Oh and I SOO agree with you when you say that even "christians" can hurt you and that not everyone that claims they are holy are, trust me I've met people like this before, but all we can do is pray for them and God will make the difference in their lives. Well God Bless talk to you later!!!!!!

Hi everyone................I don't think it's wrong to date non-christians. I was raised in a christian home and was thought to go to church every week. My family is very christian and I was practically raised in church, the reason why I say it's not wrong dating non-christians is because sometimes christian guys might be worst than the non- christians guys. I'm no one to judge, I'm not perfect and I am not trying to put them down or anything but from what I've seen and guys I've dated, sometimes I tell myself that I rather go out with someone who is not christian than with someone who is. I know I might be wrong with it but from my experience I can say this. Hopefuly I meet a good christian guy who will be true to God, himself and of course me. Till I meet that some one keep me in prayer.
Thanks

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Hey Kathy, I agree on how you cant trust some Christian guys, some are looking for other things instead of Gods glory you just have to let God guide you to who he has for you, Hes already got someone for you its just a matter of Gods time--take care laters

Hey Yanavith, of course i agree, you know what you talkin bout girl, i agree i hope to meet someone who can help me out too. God has given all of us a special task for us to do, and in the task GOd has called me to do in preach, play music, guide other youth, i need a girl who can place her trust in God first, who can pray with me, who can just go somewhere, chill and read scripture you know. Like you said someone who has fire in their heart, and that fire never burn out even in my imperfections. Its cool talking with you, do you mind if i ask you how old you are? Holla back

"If God is with me, who can be against me?"

I guess God does have someone for me, I'm not in a rush so I'll wait till it's my turn..........till God thinks I'm ready.
How old are you Rocafuerte and where are you from?

Hello Rocafuerte! Well I don't mind telling you my age , I'm 20 years old , I will be 21 in May. Wow! Your doing a lot for the Lord right now , what a blessing!! I'm a sunday school teacher!! I love the little ones! Right now Im a senior at the Univeristy OF Redlands in CA. studying to be a teacher!! What about you how old are you, what do you do for a living? GOd Bless!

Personally, I wouldn't allow myself to date a non-believer. Like many of you here have already said, we need to be of one mind and one heart. Our common purpose must be to love God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength. Yanavith mentioned how God's Words warned us to not be unequally yolked with the unbeliever. Just keep to God's Word - that's the best.
Don't talk about being joined to an unbeliever, even if your spiritual levels are at different points it also can cause friction between the couple. I've seen many cases of couples where one of them is so on fire for God and the other just wants to be a nominal Christian. Even in these kind of cases the couple suffer. And they are both Christians.
I love my Jesus and I pray to marry a man who loves Jesus too. He must be a leader of my family spiritually and in all areas just like God wants it to be. So to be, it's very very very important that I marry a man who loves Jesus to death! Hahaha.
That's my point of view guys!
Blessings

Hey gabrielle, I absolutely agree with you when you say that :"I love my Jesus and I pray to marry a man who loves Jesus too. He must be a leader of my family spiritually and in all areas just like God wants it to be. So to be, it's very very very important that I marry a man who loves Jesus to death!" This is my hearts desire also !! Oh yeah Nadine is my little sister! Well gotta go God Bless!

Hey there Yanavith,
You encourage me when you agree with me YEAH! You've got a very unique name? What does it mean? What language is it taken from? Oh do tell me - I'm very inquisitive! HAHAHA
Yes, Nadine told me that you're her older sister. I've come to know that you're 20 going on 21. I'm 22 going on 23 in April! So we're quite close in age! Great stuff!
Blessings!

GOd does have someone for you Kathy its all a process man. I just turned 24, im in Texas right now, but ill be going back to Utah to finish our cd in March. Stay strong in God he always there with you... God bless

Hey Yananith God bless girl, yeah Gods got me busy right now, but i wouldnt trade it for anything, because its his grace and glory that makes things move in our lives all we have to do is proclaim the name man. I just turned 24, and actually im not in school at the moment i took some time off (for the cd) but i would love to be a physcologist for hispanic families, i love to help people. Its all in GOds hands he the one who directs and guides my path like the bible says our thoughts are not Gods thoughts, he is God and all we can do is praise him for his goodness and follow. God bless girls write back if you can...

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Hey Rocafuerte! That's good that God is keeping you busy , that's the best way to stay focused on Him. So when did you turn 24? What part of texas are you from? Have you ever been to CA? If so what part? If I'm being to nosy just tell me Ok!!

Hey Gabrielle! Well I don't have a clue what my name means.... nor do my parents!!! I was named after an aunt ( I don't know her) and as far as i know no one else has this name . i have done searches for name meanings and stuff and get no results. But it is unique, thats why I like it. I wish I did know what it meant though!! God Bless You Always!!

Hey Yanavith NO your not being nosy do you like my emphasis in "NO", but really your not, i turned 24 in October 24th to be exact, It s cool getting to know you its good to have friends who have the same spiritual desires that i have. Im in Dallas, but guess what im going to LA in two weeks for a conference, Ive been to San Diego, Sacramento i got friends in Sacramento, Santa Ana around those hoods, you know, but enough about me, where are you from, what do you like to do in your spare time? IF im being nosy let me know seriously sometimes i talk to much so let me know cool. Well gotta go write back if you can or email me at lsauve1@yahoo.com if you want to God bless.

"Someone once told me God never places you in front of a battle your not ready for, with God all things are possible"--Luis

Hey Rocafuerte... Hey I haven't asked for your name... what is it? So what is your conference for? I live in Sa Bernardino , CA. Whenever I have spare time... you know because going to school and working takes up a lot of your time! I work at as a tutor at a high school. Its a fun job ! Oh well back to the spare time thing.. I read my BiBle.. I hang out with my beautiful sisters I have 3 and my friends. Oh for a while I tried to learn how to knit but never got back to it since i've been so busy with school. I also go to some chuch activites I used to be the Secretary of the Church of God district for our section but now I stepped down to treasuer, I just need some time for me also! Usually we have this thing with the youth once every month! Let see what else do I do .... SLEEP!! Whenever I can I get my beuty sleep!! J/K!! Well gotta go and you can also e-mail me 2 yanavith@yahoo.com. God Bless!